I am looking at a poll conducted by
research company Ipsos on the global state of happiness and lo and
behold, the country that tops the list whose respondents describe
themselves as ‘very happy’ is, Indonesia. Yes, it came as a surprise
to me too, considering that there are a lot of things in this place to
be unhappy about. Why, just turn on the television, read the newspaper
and follow the social media, and what do we get day in day out? One
endless gripe after another.
About the way the country is
governed, rampant corruption, shameless politicians, the lack of
infrastructure and basic facilities, not enough park for children to
run around in, not to mention widespread poverty and poor education.
About how awful life is in general. So, what on earth can Indonesians
be happy about?
And yet, there it is. Indonesia, topping the
happiness index above India, Mexico and Brazil. Way down the bottom
are the miserable South Koreans and Russians. The Italians and the
French too seem to be a grumpy lot, but perhaps it’s related to the
current mood of economic crisis and rising unemployment. Life is
getting harder for the Europeans these days.
The Economist points out that ‘all such polls come with a
health warning. The level of happiness is self-reported - and the term
means different things to different people. The Ipsos poll, measuring
degrees of happiness, is not strictly comparable with those that ask
about “well-being” (such as Gallup) or “life satisfaction” (the World
Values survey), so it is hard to test the validity of the conclusions
against other efforts.’
But then, the word ‘happy’ is a lot
more powerful than ‘well-being’ or ‘satisfied.’ People know when they
are happy or not and most people make the ‘pursuit of happiness’ not of
satisfaction, their life’s objective, with the state of unhappiness
being a fate more fearful than death.
For instance, one could
respond to experiencing ‘well-being’ when relaxing in a comfortable
house after a delicious dinner, or feel ‘satisfied’ about having
attained that managerial position at the office and being able to
afford a new car, but these things do not necessarily constitute
happiness.
On the contrary, one could find oneself idly
sitting under a tree or getting drenched in a torrential rain and feel
perfectly happy. As The Economist concedes ‘levels of income are, if
anything, inversely related to felicity. Perceived happiness depends
on a lot more than material welfare.’
Happiness then is a state
of mind and not a possession. You can’t possess happiness, even
though it’s tempting to think that money can get rid of your
unhappiness. Greedy people for example, are rarely happy people. The
very act of wanting more is a sign they are unhappy with what they
have. And their greed makes others unhappy. We know this because we
have more than our fare share of greedy people in this country.
Still,
despite the plethora of shenanigans and challenges that the ordinary
Indonesian is constantly subjected to, we obviously have a state of
mind that makes us naturally more cheerful than our friends in Europe,
their better quality of life not withstanding.
So, what exactly is happiness and what makes a happy mind? And, for the miserables, how to achieve this desirable feeling?
The
answer must lie then, not in the events themselves but in how we react
to them. In our ability to deal with disappointments, disasters and
adversities without falling headlong into the abyss of despair but by
being able to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and move on. In
other words, in how resilient we are to all the hardships and sufferings
that life dishes up for us and in our ability to view the future with
optimism.
In the latest edition of Newsweek, the magazine
explores recent findings by professor of psychology and psychiatry,
Richard J. Davidson, that answers the question why some people are
better than others at shrugging off life’s trials and tribulations that
would leave lesser resilient individuals wallowing in self-pity,
misery and despair.
It’s not a case of hormonal imbalance,
uncontrollable emotions or mysterious mood swings, but is what Davidson
calls ‘Emotional Style’ - ‘a constellation of reactions and coping
responses that differ in kind, intensity and duration.‘ Through
neuroimaging and tracing specific patterns of neural activity in the
brain, Davidson discovers that ‘Emotional Style arises partly from
activity in regions involved in cognition, reason and logic - functions
that textbooks tell us are as unrelated to emotions as apples are to
squid.’ Meaning that thoughts (seated in our more evolved prefrontal
cortex) and emotion (residing in the amygdala in our more animalistic
limbic system) are not so separate after all.
The key is
activity in the left brain. In his experiments Davidson discovered
that ‘People with greater activation on the left side of the prefrontal
cortex recovered much more quickly even from the strongest feelings of
disgust, anger and fear... From this, we inferred that the left
prefrontal sends inhibitory signals to the amygdala, instructing it to
quiet down..’
Moreover, ‘the more axons you have connecting one
neuron to another between the prefrontal cortex and the amygdala, the
more resilient you are.‘ And you can actually train you brain to have
more of these axons. ‘When it comes to Emotional Style, we know that
changes to the neural structure of brain are possible,‘ wrote Davidson.
‘Mental activity, ranging from mediation to cognitive-behaviour
therapy, can help you develop a broader awareness of social signals, a
deeper sensitivity to our own feelings and bodily sensation, a more
consistently positive outlook and a greater capacity for Resilience.’
May
be we Indonesians are so used to disappointments and to all sorts of
sufferings, that overtime we’ve developed bundles of these neurons in
our brain that allow us to bounce back quickly and move on, most likely
to the next problem.
As for our more miserable friends, you might want to take up meditation.
(Desi Anwar: First published in The Jakarta Globe)
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